As a queer person from the south who was constantly silenced for fear that speaking out to lead to more bullying...
As the youngest of six who always had to fight to be heard over the older, wiser siblings...
As the son of two lawyers who instilled in their children that it’s not only right to have a viewpoint on something but one must express that viewpoint every chance they get...
As someone who always has a lot to say...
As a person who always felt that not having an opinion made people seem him as weak, unintelligent, or small-minded...
It’s taken me an incredibly long time to learn that it’s okay to not voice my opinion all the time.
***In fact, people apparently appreciate it!!!
While I am admittedly still on a journey to perfecting this balance, it’s been interesting to learn that people don’t see me any differently when I don’t raise my viewpoint. When I ask more questions vs. give answers, the conversation becomes more fulfilling and purposeful for both parties. And, more often than not, people will ultimately ask for my view, which allows them to have more power in the conversation.
Comments